When I think about the strength compliments I am reminded of some interpersonal training, which I attended once. It lasted four days and ended with an enjoyable exercise that taught me a lot. It consisted in the fact that each participant glued on the back of the card with your name, and others have written on the things that this man valued. I will tell you that the ends of the letter could not be seen. Neither the owner of the list would not be able to unsubscribe so many of its advantages, as he wrote his friend and fellow sheet. It turned out that in certain situations for other people to know us better than we know ourselves, because they see things that umykają our attention. Often we are not aware of all their advantages, as they gradually gain and it is difficult to see. The easiest way to understand this mechanism may be looking at his siblings. When you have a younger brother, not you realize how fast it grows, because you see it every day. However, if after a year nieodwiedzania you see it your auntie, it says "... like that your brother has grown." You can not see the development of his brother, because personally towarzyszysz this process, but people who see your brother once a year, are surprised its development. The same thing is there is no knowing the man advantage. Girl with which to arrange the do not know all their advantages, because it is the direct witness of its growth. However, you can make it remember its good side who were previously not noticed. What do you think happens when you are able to achieve this? Of course, the girl with you anchor the state: the validity, the valence and attractiveness. It will be with you feel valuable, attractive woman, and thus will need your company. Meetings will be with you for the way to satisfy his desire to be someone important and valuable
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